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[核心摘要]亚博网页版这里有一个小故事也许能对教育孩子的复杂性有所描述，故事是说，“一个未婚心理学家写了篇论文《如何养育孩子的十二个必备条件》，结婚有孩子后将题目该为《如何养育孩子的十二个建议》；生下第二个孩子后又该为《如何养育孩子的十二个提示》；第三个孩子出生后她放弃了自己的课题。这个故事说明养育孩子…
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